my sexuality

Æ-ELDN-10
(zeta)




Æ As a Zeta, the high degree of confidence you feel around your sexuality matches your level of experience. Your sexual confidence and awareness are particularly high, but your sex appeal is somewhat lower.

E As an E you tend to focus more on an emotional connection to your partner during sex.
L As an L you tend to enjoy watching yourself, and your partner while having sex.
D As a D you tend to be more experimental and willing to try new things when it comes to sex.
N As an N you tend to communicate with body language, not words, during sex.

10 As for your interest in sex, your libido score is 10 on a scale of 1-10.




YOUR SEXUAL PERSONA


ÆÆ - ELDN - 10



Your Sexual Persona
As a Zeta, the high degree of confidence you feel around your sexuality matches your level of experience. Let's face it: most Zetas have explored their sexual sides and know well what they want, as well as what pleases their sexual partners. But you'd never know it from the outside.

While others ooze sex appeal to those around them, Zetas prefer to keep their sexuality between themselves and their partners. They are experienced and know what they like in bed, but they don't advertise how sexy they are when they're walking down the street, or heading into the boardroom. In fact, your sexuality positively gushes out into your sexual relationships.

Discretion is something you value when it comes to sex, and you might even find people who are more brazen about their sexuality to be a bit mystifying. Are they more experienced or confident than you? Do they wear sexy clothes to get noticed? Not necessarily. So don't feel that because you choose to share your likes, dislikes and experience with your partner and not the entire world, that you have anything less to shout about when it comes to sex.

Since you tend to more discreet however, you might surprise a new sexual partner with you level of sexual confidence and awareness. Chances are, they'll find this a pleasant one.

Your Sex Appeal
You're happier to keep you sexuality to yourself — there's not need to flaunt it for all to see. It's why new acquaintances often find themselves drawn first to your intellect or sense of humor. While your other traits might be more accessible at first, however, what others are likely to remember about you later is your earthy, sensuous allure. Indeed, your understated, attractive nature has a way of haunting people long after you've left the room. And because your sexiness works its magic more slowly, you often make a far more lasting and powerful impression than people who walk into a room screaming sex.

Your Internal Sexual Confidence
You are at the height of your strengths as a sexual partner, and you are fully aware of this fact. Indeed, your awareness of, and confidence in, your sexual prowess leaves little room for either anxiety or concern. This puts you in a very powerful, even enviable, position. You know what buttons you like pushed, and you know how to please your partner. Indeed, your sexual partner is likely to be highly appreciative of your degree of sexual self-assurance — an assurance that makes you more adventuresome and self-confident in bed than are most people.

Your Sexual Awareness
You've thoroughly explored those things that make you tingle with pleasure, and you probably aren't afraid to find out more. You're truly in tune with your sexual side, and chances are you aren't afraid of your body or, frankly, much else in life. Whether you are out there exploring new opportunities, or living contentedly knowing that you've already mastered what gets your motor running, you are far more aware of your own needs and desires than most people. And more than most people, you know just how to satisfy those needs and desires.


Sexual Personas
The first element of your sexual personality is your sexual persona. Your sexual persona is determined by three elements, your sex appeal, sexual awareness, and sexual confidence. Your sex appeal is an estimate of how other people perceive you to be sexually — what they think it might be like to be with you sexually. Your sexual awareness represents how conscious you are of your sexual needs, likes and desires. Your sexual confidence is all about how confident you feel when you're in a sexual relationship with someone else and more specifically, how sure you are of yourself when you're engaged in a sexual act with your sexual partner. It is, overall, a measure of your internal security when it comes to your own sexuality.

What's interesting is that these three elements — sex appeal, sexual awareness and sexual confidence — are independent of one another. You could find someone who has the highest sex appeal around; a person who everyone agrees radiates sexiness. Yet, this person could easily have a low sexual confidence, while at the same time, demonstrating a moderate level of sexual awareness. It is the varying degrees of scores on these sexual scales that determine your specific sexual persona out of the twelve predetermined sexual personas.




Shatter the Myth
Sex between lovers varies substantially. That's the norm, not the exception. Here's a little secret: No one has sublime sex every time. There are no strategies for having perfect sex that have been hidden from you.

Sex can be mind-blowing, but not every time. Learn to be realistic in your expectations and realize that sometimes, when everything is right, sex is going to "click." Other times, it's not that you're losing a connection or that it's a bad omen, but sex just doesn't seem "on." But with the following report, and action items, you can improve your sex life so that it "clicks" more often than not.




EMOTIONAL/PHYSICAL ASPECTS OF SEXUALITY



Æ - EELDN - 10



Your Emotional/Physical Balance
You're an E-. You're slightly more motivated by the emotional aspects of sex than you are the physical aspects of it, meaning that a loving connection is slightly more important to you than the physical essence of the interaction. "Slightly" is the operative word in your case, however. While you tend toward favoring the emotional elements relating to sex, you also experience a real pull to the less complicated and purely physical experience that is part of being sexual with another person.

Your Desire for Emotional Connection During Sex
There is an emotional component to sex for you, but the need to connect with your sexual partner isn't the driving force behind each experience. You aren't always flooded with emotions about a person because you've had sex with them, or have been sexually involved with them. Sometimes you feel emotionally connected to your partner; other times, you do not. The effect is directly correlated to the person with whom you are having sexual relations. You also might find that your emotional connection to your sexual partner is likely to change, as your relationship develops and especially, when your having sex.

Your Drive Towards the Physical High of Sex
The physical components of sex are very important to you. Sex is great, but for you, orgasm is something you really look forward to. You're probably disappointed if you don't climax — which makes the physical high of sex an integral part of the experience for you. Unfortunately, you can't guarantee the dizzying highs that having sex can produce. It's possible that sometimes you just think about it too much, which distracts your body from the task at hand. It's also possible that under certain circumstances, like being in a new environment or with a new lover, you have a hard time getting your usual hot button to work the right way. The best way to make sure your future sexual experiences are the best they can be, try to pay more attention to the details that do make the sexual experience click for you. Pursue them more aggressively when need be. It is the best path to ensuring the maximum in physical pleasure that is possible for you.


The Emotional/Physical Scale
In general, the Emotional/ Physical Scale (E/P) describes the degree to which emotional closeness or pure physical enjoyment is most important to you during sex. Some people are more oriented towards the emotional connection made between two people during an intimate moment. Other people thrive on the physical rush of sex. And still others, find both elements are equally important. For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly more towards the emotional, or E side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the physical, or P side of the scale.

Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores an E+ feels much more strongly about the emotional connection during sex. Someone who scores an E- feels just slightly more strongly about the emotional connections than they do about the physical connections. Someone who scores a P- feels just slightly more strongly about the physical over the emotional, and so on.



Use the 5 Senses to Heighten Sexual Sensations
Regardless of whether you have a more emotional or physical connection during sex, one thing remains the same: all five of your senses can be involved.

Too often, people focus on one or two of the senses. But for an exciting change, try stimulating all five senses at once. The key here is to excite your partner, so as you go through this exercise, focus on what she would like, not what you would like. You'll find that by pleasuring her, you'll get increasingly excited yourself. Sight, sound, smell, taste, touch. Those are your categories. Now, find elements to stimulate each of those senses.

Sight: Try wearing an outfit she's complimented you on before, that turns her on. If it's a tux, wear a tux. If it's your faded jeans, wear your faded jeans.

You can also awaken her sense of sight by setting the scene in one of your rooms. Light the living room with candles. Fill the bedroom with flowers. It's even ok to have an erotic magazine to flip through together if you think she'd be up for it.

Sound: Turn on music she thinks is relaxing or romantic. This setting isn't about you; it's about you reading her well enough to heighten the sexual experience for both of you. If she's particularly stressed, find a sound machine to play soothing white noise or the crashing of ocean waves.

If you've got a good singing voice, now might be the time to use it. Serenade her.

Smell: Don't forget that smell is the sense many people associate with emotionally. Smells remind people of their history and are particularly useful ways of bringing someone back to another place and time.

If you shared an exciting romantic trip to the Caribbean, try filling your home with the reminiscent smells of coconut or exotic orchids. If you want to evoke the trip to the orient, try using aromatic oils you can find at numerous health stores or gift shops.

If she goes wild when you wear your aftershave, wear your aftershave.

Or if the aroma of a freshly baked chocolate cake will remind her of your Sunday afternoons at the local coffee shop, bake a cake.

Taste: There are plenty of things you can do when it comes to taste. Take for example, the joy of culinary aphrodisiacs. In addition to oysters, people swear by chocolate, pine nuts and spicy food as precursors to unstoppable sex drives. For a more indirect way to tease her taste sense, you can eat a bite of her favorite chocolate cake, then have her taste it only on your breath when you kiss her.

You can also have your partner try some of her favorite foods, eaten directly off your body.

Touch: Touch seems like a no-brainer to most people, but there are things you can do to increase the draw of touch with your partner.

Try the no-touching exercise. Kneel on two knees facing each other. The goal of this exercise is to get as close as you can without touching. You may be unbearably attracted to each other, wanting to move in for an actual kiss, but see how long you can go without touching at all. The sexual tension that builds can lead to a powerful sexual experience.



TOUCH/LOOK ASPECTS OF SEXUALITY


Æ - ELLDN - 10



Your Touch/Look Balance
You're a L-. When it comes to the balance of touching and looking, you're slightly inclined to watch. You find it pretty darn titillating, in fact. That is not to say, however, that you prefer looking versus touching by many degrees. Indeed, you derive a lot of pleasure both from being shown affection and the stimulation of watching your partner make love to you. At times, in fact, you find yourself vacillating between the two desires. It largely depends on your partner and the setting. In the end, visuals may get your motor running faster than being caressed the right way, but you appreciate both and maintain a strong balance of the two.

Your Tendency to be Affectionate During Sex
Physical caressing makes you swoon, and you often view a warm, soft touch as more erotic than any sexual gesture. It's because you are highly touch-oriented. Lucky you. You are able to reap the benefits of having high skin sensitivity without being sensitive to the extent that frequent physical connections can overwhelm you. Your favorite sensory experience? Kissing. For you, it's a big part of the sexual experience and something you love doing with your partner nearly as much as having sex itself. Those little things really get you going.

Your Interest in Looking At Your Sexual Partner
There's no doubt. You see the beauty in the human form. It's there for you and you notice the physical characteristics of your sexual partner's body. You enjoy watching them even if it means being at a distance. But then you're probably quick to get close and be a part of the action, too. It also depends on how emotionally connected you are to this person, too. If you care deeply about the person, you might be more inclined to spend more time admiring them, watching them, appreciating their physical look and what they're doing with their body. Everyone is different. The important thing is that you find someone compatible with whom you can really get into what you enjoy doing.


The Touch/Look Scale
In general, the Touch/Look (T/L) scale describes the degree to which you like to touch your sexual partner, or be touched by them as well as how much you enjoy admiring your partner, or watching them during sex.

Some people are strongly oriented towards the sensations of touch. They find the physical sensations particularly erotic. Other people feel more strongly about watching themselves and their partners while having sex. For them, the visual cues and aspects of sex are the most erotic. And for other people, both aspects of sex are equally important.

For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly towards the touch, or T side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the look, or L, side of the scale. Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores a T+ feels much more strongly about the touch connection during sex. Someone who scores a T- feels just slightly more strongly about the touch sensations than they do about the looking connection. Someone who scores an L- feels just slightly more strongly about the looking element over the touching element of sex, and so on.




Take a sexual shower
Many sexual couples have showered together. But if you pay particular attention to the nuances of being in the shower together, you'll enjoy the experience even more. Here's why.
Water adds sensation. Couple that with the sensation you already have being with your partner, and you'll find yourself aroused in a more heightened state. The water of the shower and soap also add a slippery element you might not be accustomed to when your partner rubs her body against yours.
Standing up in the shower, you are also exposed to a maximum of your partner's skin, something you can't always get in other positions or embraces.
A warm shower is automatically relaxing and will make it easier for you to wipe the day's worries from your mind, and hence, focus more on the sexual feelings at hand.
Exercise:
Keeping all these elements in mind, try taking turns washing your partner and having her wash you. This exercise has less to do with a cleaning routine, and more about allowing you and your partner to luxuriate in sensual touch. The combination of the water and your hands and body against hers, can be an enormous turn on.




DARING/MODEST ASPECTS OF SEXUALITY


Æ - ELDDN - 10



Your Daring/Modest Balance
You're a D+. You are willing to try anything, and you have a strong sense of adventure when it comes to romping around in the sack, or wherever it happens to be that you do your wild thing. You might even have shocked a few of your sexual partners in the past — although knowing you, you're less likely to worry about that sort of thing and more likely to feel proud of your avant-garde approach to sex. Every once in a while, you may experience a twinge of doubt over whether or not your sexual partner will think you're too willing to go to the edge in order to obtain a sexual high. Just keep reminding yourself that everyone is different, and sex is never about being right or wrong. It's about mutual gratification and satisfaction. As long as you're in line with those objectives, you're on the right track and have nothing to question.

Your Openness to be Daring During Sex
You're a little daredevil when it comes to sex. You are very willing to take risks, both emotionally and physically, while having the good sense not to gamble with your health. Indeed, unsafe sex is a no-no in your book. That isn't to say that you need unconventional sex in order to really enjoy the act; in fact, you aren't averse to routine lovemaking now and again. Still, you aren't apt to consider a lot of experimentation as strange or unacceptable. You're happy to initiate new moves. You're also happy when your sexual partners get adventurous. You've experienced the pleasures that can be derived by getting imaginative.

Your Level of Modesty
You are happily uninhibited about your sexuality, and you seldom shy away from expressing your sexual interests, desires, or history from those who want to hear you tell about these things. For you, sex is a beautiful, fun, natural part of being human, and you don't have time for people who judge immodesty as crude. If they misunderstand your openness, so be it. You don't judge others and you don't expect to be judged. In your view, being uninhibited is the healthiest, happiest way to go through life.


The Daring/Modest Scale
In general, the Daring/Modest (D/M) scale describes the degree to which you are willing to try new things sexually, and the degree to which you prefer to be modest and discreet. To understand your score, you also need to know that daringness and modesty are equally acceptable. One score on this scale is no better than another score. The important thing to remember is to learn more about yourself so you can take this knowledge and enhance your sexual relationships — current or future. For some people daringness is critical. For others, modesty is more important. And for others still, there are equally important.

For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly more towards the daring, or D side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the modest, or M side of the scale.

Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores an D+ feels much more strongly about being daring, trying new things during sex. Someone who scores an D- feels just slightly more strongly about the experimenting then they do about remaining more modest and discreet. Someone who scores an M- feels just slightly more strongly about remaining more discreet than experimenting with more daring, unfamiliar things during sex.




Develop a Sexual Attitude
Whatever your experience level, one thing you can focus on instead of technique, is attitude. When you display the sense that you are comfortable with your body, are interested in an erotic experience, and are ready to feel good and make your partner feel good, you create a sexual aura around yourself. This doesn't mean you should take on the attitude of Casanova or other people you perceive to be sexy. You should still act yourself, just allow yourself to throw your inhibitions out the window. Sex is natural. It can be serious, but you should also be able to have fun with it.




VERBAL/NON-VERBAL ASPECTS OF SEXUALITY


Æ - ELDNN - 10



Your Verbal/Non-verbal Balance
You're a N-. You enjoy and prefer the art of body language when it comes to communicating with your sexual partners. Indeed, generally speaking, you are slightly more inclined than most to use non-verbal communication to get your point across, be it to convey that you are excited, or tired — even that your partner is pushing all the buttons. Luckily for your partner, you are also a balanced person. You can articulate your needs and wants (or ask about his or hers) while employing non-verbal cues, which makes understanding you pleasantly simple.

In truth, your communication difficulties are nominal compared with many others. You are able to communicate well both non-verbally and verbally, and understanding others, regardless of how they choose to communicate with you, is almost never problematic. Your slight preference might be to express yourself physically, but almost nothing prevents you and your lover from understanding each other.

Your Verbal Communication Tendencies During Sex
Chances are that you're generally a verbally gifted individual. Because it's perfectly natural for you to articulate your thoughts effectively, why should it be any different when you're being sexual with someone? For you, there are no significant blockades preventing you from expressing yourself in as clear a way possible during sex. One word of advice, though. Great articulation is a talent, indeed, but not everything you say during sex may be beneficial to your partner. Remember bringing up those concerns about your dry-cleaning? It might have seemed innocuous enough at the time, but talking about something unrelated to sex during the act can dampen the intensity of the encounter. Perhaps this is the unconscious (or conscious) desired effect. Perhaps, too, you sometimes veer off course owing to habit or natural inclination.

Either way, being verbally oriented puts you ahead the game. You just want to choose your material more carefully, so that when you are communicating something about sex that your partner wouldn't want to miss, they'll be tuned in. In other words, during sex, use those great verbal skills to heighten yours and your partner's satisfaction, and save the small talk for later.

The Non-verbal Communication You Use During Sex
You tend to use non-verbal communication and verbal communication in equal parts when it comes to sex. Sometimes you spell out what you want, like, and intend to do with words; other times, you let your body do the talking. It's a great balance, and in fact most people know instinctively how to employ some non-verbal communication during sex, even if it isn't their normal tendency to be demonstrative in this way. Further, because you know how to express yourself without words, you're open and capable of reading others' non-verbal communications.

One thing to note: there is more ambiguity in non-verbal communication than in verbal communication, even when your sexual partner happens to be a strong non-verbal communicator. Not surprisingly, there's just more room for fuzziness when one is dealing in the subtle art of body language. While it might seem perfectly obvious to you that what you're communicating is loud and clear, the message might not be getting received that way. Much of non-verbal communication can be interpreted in different ways depending on the person. To be on the safe side, you might want to check in verbally now and again to ensure that your non-verbal exchanges with your partner are being understood as they are meant.


The Verbal/Non-Verbal Scale
In general, the Verbal/Non Verbal (V/N) scale describes the degree to which you communicate with words during sex or the degree to which you rely on non-verbal communication.

Communication is central to finding satisfaction in your sexual relationships with others. If you can't communicate what you need, what you want — whether verbally, or non-verbally, you're probably not going to get it. As of yet, there are no known methods for getting your partner to read your mind. However, you can help them understand your body language better, or you can learn to better communicate what you want.

There are needs and interests that can easily go overlooked and unspoken when you're wrapped up in the heat of the moment. Oftentimes you won't remember to tell your partner something after the fact. And still other times it will just seem too unnatural to bring it up again out of context. It's easy to misread your partner during sex. All of the physical and emotional feelings can muddle up even the clearest of sentences which is exactly why it's even more important for you and your partner to know how to communicate. Understanding your score on the V/N scale should help.

Some people are much stronger verbal communicators. Others stick with non-verbal communication, and others still, rely on both kinds of communication equally. For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly more towards the daring, or D side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the modest, or M side of the scale.

Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores a V+ is much more of a verbal communicator. Someone who scores a V- minus tends to communicate verbally just slightly more than non-verbally. Someone who scores an N- uses just slightly more non-verbal communication than verbal communication during sex.




Mastering the Caress
The caress is probably one of the best ways to rev up your sex life. And the benefit is that these exercises work for people both trying to improve their non-verbal and verbal communication.

Exercise:
Lie down and relax. Start touching yourself lightly on the face, neck, and arms. Move your fingers across your body as slowly as you can stand and with the lightest touch you can master. Then move down to your stomach, trunk and legs. Focus on the sensations, then vary the speed with which you move, and the pressure you apply to your body. That will allow you to know how you like to be touched.

Next, try out your favorite touch on your partner. See if she likes the same speed and pressure as you do. Have her show you what she likes on her body, and then have her touch you in that way on your body. Or, have her tell you exactly what she likes and see if you can replicate it. That will help you understand each other's communication during sex.

You'll find that by identifying each other's most stimulating caresses, you will increase the pleasure of your foreplay and ultimately, your sex.




Æ - ELDN - 1010



Your Libido
You're a 10. You've got a roaring libido. You aren't apologetic about thinking about it lots, having it more often, and enjoying longer lovemaking sessions more than the next guy, either. In all likelihood, you started exploring your sexuality earlier in life than your peers and you've remained more sexually active since. You may even masturbate with greater frequency than do most people. And there's nothing wrong with that. You probably enjoy more gratifying sexual experiences than do most, too, thanks to that hearty drive.

Your Libido and Sexual Relationships
Your roaring libido can be great; it can also make life a little stimulus-filled. Fact is, whether or not you give it much thought, you find yourself attracted to lots of people. While others are wondering about what they are going to prepare for dinner, you're typically thinking instead of what's on the menu after dinner.

Generally, your healthy sexual appetite makes you more apt to fall into more casual sexual relationships than some other folks. That inclination in no way means that you would be less loyal than the average person if in a committed relationship, but it does mean that you might have to put in a bit more of an effort than most. Simply, life is just more sexually charged for you. There are more internal sexual reactions taking place whether you welcome them or not. And it can be very tempting to release some of that sexual intensity around someone who is interested and willing. Whether you decide to act on those impulses is strictly a personal thing. As in everything, do what seems right to you and feels most appropriate in the greater context of your life.


Libido
Libido: the psychic and emotional energy associated with instinctual biological drives; sexual desire; manifestation of the sexual drive.

The term libido has come a long way since it was first introduce by the psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud. But for all intents and purposes, the word now means your general interest level in sex. When Freud first started using the term, he used it to mean sexual drive, or sexual instinct. Through his research, he found that sexual drive followed a certain pattern — a gradual buildup of intensity, followed by release, and a decrease in excitement. He also realized that sex was not the only human function that yielded this pattern. Eating, drinking and urination also shared these traits. As a result, he considered these activities sexual as well, because they followed the pattern of libido.

Freud, studied as he was, was still questioned by colleagues. Many of them felt he put too much emphasis on the biological influences on humans' sex behavior, and too little emphasis on the external cultural and social morals that impacted how an individual was socialized into sex and taught to view sex. It was that socialization, scientists said, that truly shaped one's sexual behavior and these factors were so strong they should not be ignored. They felt that there is an undeniable link between sex drive and biology, rooted in our need to keep producing our species. They also felt, however, that in addition to our biological need for sex, the societal and cultural environments in which we live truly shape our drive towards sex.

This test assesses your libido score by asking about several different aspects of sexual drive. How often do you think about sex? How deeply do you think about it? Does it take over your thoughts when you have other things to do? We measure your urge to have sex, how long you want to be engaged in sex when you do have it. We also associate how easy it is to turn you on with libido. These are the kinds of factor that are analyzed to come up with your overall libido score, which ranges from 1-10.







Wind up Your Sex Drive with Relaxation
Another key to fantastic sex, is to be relaxed. That's perhaps one of the most overlooked and undervalued components to a fantastic sex life. Your life may be hectic, and busy, but with the following insights, you'll be able to relax yourself, which will allow you to prep yourself for terrific sex.

Relaxation is the most critical element to sexual arousal. Try these exercises to get you there.

Slow down. The first step to relaxing yourself is to slow down your breathing. Lie down, close your eyes, and take 10 deep breaths in through your nose, hold them for a couple of seconds, and exhale slowly. You'll find that your body will start to relax as you focus on this breathing, and your heart rate will slow down.

Once you've slowed your body down, you're ready to start a caressing exercise. By lightly touching yourself or your partner, you awaken your sexual side while maintaining your relaxed state. Think about how a massage relaxes you. These gentle whispering caresses do the same, but with the added benefit of feeling slightly sexual as well.

Remember to breathe. In the midst of all the sexual charges, and in anticipation of the ultimate muscle-clenching finale of sex, many people don't realize the importance of breathing. Breathing can actually enhance your sexual experience. Instead of holding your breath during moments of heightened sexual sensations, remember to breath in and out continuously. Do not pause between your inhale and exhale. Think of them as one continuous cycle. Then you can pause between breaths.





















YOUR SEXUAL LIFE


Increasing Your Sexual Enjoyment
Your balance of interests in the emotional and physical aspects of the sex act, paired with your strong sexual drive and interest in having sex, make you ready for almost anything.

That doesn't mean you can't improve on a good thing. Obviously, you enjoy sex for a number of reasons, and you're highly motivated to have a lot of it. By thinking harder about what you sometimes fantasize about, you can probably see what stands out most in terms of your likes. Maybe you envision your partner's facial expressions, or the physical feelings that you enjoy when you're engaged in the act. You can learn from these daydreams by trying to establish if they are emotionally or physically intensive. If they prove to be one or the other, you might want to redouble your efforts in the bedroom around the area that you feel is getting shorter shrift. Further, capitalizing on your vivid imagination by indulging in these fantasies can be a great way to augment your (probably already rich) real-life sex life.

Your Ideal Sexual Partner
Your sexual language consists of subtleties. You like to use your eyes and let nature be your guide when it comes to sex. You don't want to have to talk everything out or explain what you need. If you have a highly sensitive sexual partner who is also very non-verbal and admiring like you are, you're probably set. This combination is relatively rare, however, so if you haven't met your match, keep some things in mind when picking a lover. First, being utterly alike isn't necessary to achieve sexual satisfaction and great pleasure. However, you might be hard-pressed to have a smooth level of communication with a sexual partner who is affectionate and verbal. Thankfully, employing different styles doesn't have to spell disaster. A person can learn your language if he or she is willing to work at it. The same is true for you.

How Others See You Sexually
Your sex appeal is elegantly muted. While people may find you very attractive, they don't notice you for your provocative dress, or because of the sexual terms you employ when talking, or because you sashay dramatically across a room, as do some people. After all, you're a subtle person; you don't like attracting undue attention to yourself.

That said, people who know you well might see you more as a sexual beast than do strangers who have only your clothing, language, and overall attitude on which to go by. Your intimates and friends may think of you differently depending on how you approach sex and whether or not you've discussed it in their presence. The mere mention of sex can often activate the imagination of others.

If you should want to project more sex appeal to outside observers, that can be easily remedied, too. Simply having sex on the brain often changes how you act in subtle ways, ways that others can sense. Showing more skin helps, too.

The fact is, sex appeal has loads to do with how others perceive you, but you can willfully change that perception. In the end, it's up to you to choose what others can see.